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覺察與慈悲的親子教養 線上雙語課程

Conscious and Compassionate Parenting, Bilingual Online Program

| 導師：Wendy Schulz & 李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
| 時間：Oct. 6, 7, 15, 16, 2022
| 人數：51

這次課程我們有 51 名學員註冊參與：其中 43 名來自中國團隊， 8 名來自加拿大海文團隊的註冊平台。加拿大海文註冊組的 Morag 通知我們 Haven 將在 2022 年底縮減人力，並在冬季時間要關閉校舍 – 因此這個課程也會是我們最後的一次的全球中英雙語課程。我非常喜歡與 Wendy 老師的合作和共創 — 這個課程收到了學員們積極正向的反饋。Wendy，感謝妳提出這個課程構想，所以我們有機會彼此認識，成為共同帶領人，也增進了我們之間的友誼。 很感謝妳的兒子 Jamison 現身在我們最後的一節課 — 許多學員都是通過「青年領導力」課程認識了 Jamison。 當 Jamison 和 Wendy 共同呈現在一個屏幕上時，真是美好的畫面。由於加拿大海文正處於轉變調整的過程中 – 我衷心地感謝這兩年來每一位支持「全球中英雙語線上課程」的朋友們，還有所有在幕前幕後的工作人員。希望我們都照顧好自己，持續活出我們從海文學院 The Haven 學習到的禮物。

This is to provide a summary report on the subject program – We have in total 51 registrants: 43 from The China Team and 8 from the Haven. With Morag’s notification on the Haven’s closure during the winter season – This Parenting Program is our last Bilingual Program. I enjoy very much the teamwork and co-creation with Wendy – this program has been receiving positive feedbacks from our participants. Wendy, thank you for bringing in the program idea, and I get the opportunity to know you as a co-leader and as a friend. I also appreciate Jamison showed up during our last session – many of our participants know Jamison through our Bilingual Youth Leadership Program. It’s a beautiful moment to have Jamison and Wendy together on the same screen. As Haven is changing and transforming – I thank you and all the staff members working on the front and behind the screen. Wish we all take care and carrying on the gift we have been learning from the Haven.

生活的目的在增進人類全體之生活，
生命的意義在創造宇宙繼起之生命。

一切都在迅速變化的今天，即使是教養兒女也是如此！您是否發現自己所採用的親子互動方式對您或您的孩子已經不太適用？

也許您會發現自己幾乎是技窮，無法有效地應對眼前教養子女的各種挑戰，無論是：技術方法，面對各種身心症狀：抑鬱、焦慮，紀律問題，如何設定界限，等等。正如我的母親常這麼說：「很不幸的，教養孩子這件事是沒有使用說明書的！」 真希望有個「使用說明」，如果真的有，我們可能會更成功、更足智多謀，在父母與孩子的連結上會更緊密。我們如何學會為人父母的呢？帶著榮耀父母的心，課程中我們將一起來發現從自己的父母那，我們學到了那些教養方式。也通過觀察社會文化對教養子女的規範，我們可以發現自己的價值觀，我們重視或不重視什麼。因此我們可以為教育兒女開啟了一條新的道路，以全新的方式來認識我們的孩子。在一個安全、不羞愧，尊重個人界限與隱私的環境中，讓我們開始深入探討這個主題，讓我們從身為父母的優勢力量中出發，體會到充足的資源，並以雙方都想要的方式與孩子建立共同成長的親子關係。

課程重點

  • 認知為人父母的挑戰和優勢，是什麼阻礙了您成為自己希望成為的父母？您如何善用自己的優勢面臨挑戰？
  • 通過諸多途徑來檢視我們從哪裡獲得養育子女的方法 — 以慈悲的心情，我們將探索哪些是有效的，而哪些是無效的。
  • 借助課程中提供的工具，我們開始製定一個新計劃，加強與孩子間的交流，從我們的優勢出發，因此我們可以一種健康的方式向前邁進：了解我們的孩子是誰，不是我們希望他們成為什麼樣的人，開始接受他們真正是誰，他們與我們不同的地方，並開始支持他們成為真實完整的自己 — 即使我們不見得喜歡。
  • 這個課程會有機會彼此聆聽分享，導師和學員們有機會交流自己的故事和現實生活中的經驗。這是一個共同創造的學習環境，我們希望為豐富的成長之旅打造一個安心分享相互學習的容器。
  • 本課程歡迎對三歲至青少年親子教養有興趣的家長、父母、祖父母、專業人士，或對此主題有興趣的朋友們一起加入 — 課程中會有大組與小組不同的學習環節，我們會將學員依自己有興趣探索的同年齡段孩子來做小組分配。

每次的課程將以不同的焦點來深入我們的主題，我們邀請學員在課程與課程間持續地反思落實所學。課中所有的探索練習也將尊重個人不同的選擇以及尊重界限的方式進行。課程的形式包括：

  • 身心合一的靜心冥想
  • 內在整合的主題簡報
  • 創意與經驗式的學習
  • 小組分享與自我省思
  • 回家作業的落地實習

合作夥伴
這是一個加拿大海文和中國團隊的跨國合作！感謝双方的合作我們才有機會將海文精彩的課程持續地從加拿大本土推廣到全球的平台上。 建議您先下載WeChat軟體，所以您可以更方便地收到我們的課程錄影以及課程提醒。

Everything is changing so rapidly these days, even parenting. Are you finding the style of parenting you have adopted is not really working for you or your child?

Perhaps you find you are ill equipped for parenting challenges that are in front of you like technology, depression, anxiety, discipline issues, setting boundaries. As my own mother used to say, ‘unfortunately children do not come with an instruction manual’. If only they did, we might feel more successful, resourceful, and connected as parents to our children. How did we learn to be a parent? In honor of our own parents, we will discover what we learned about parenting from them, by looking at cultural norms around parenting we can uncover what we value or not and begin to build a new path for parenting and to meet our children in a fresh way. In a safe, shame free and confidential environment we can begin to explore this topic in detail so that you come from a position of strength as a parent, feel resourced and are connected with your child in a way that you both want.

Program Highlights

  • Identify our parenting challenges and strengths, what is in the way of you being the parent you wish to be? How can you bring your strengths to the areas of challenge?
  • Through various pathways examine where we get our parenting skills from – with compassion we will explore which ones work and which ones don’t.
  • With the tools offered in the program we begin to build a new plan to a stronger relationship with our children and come from a position of strength as a parent, so we can move forward in a good way: knowing our child for who they are, not who we want them to be and moving into acceptance of who they are, where they are different from us and begin to support them for who they are – even if we don’t like it.
  • The program will create opportunities for stories and real-life experience sharing from both leaders and participants. With the co-creative learning environment, we wish to build a safe container for a rich journey of growth.
  • This course welcomes parents, grandparents, professionals, or people who are interested in parenting with children between ages 3 years to young adult to join. There will be different learning arrangement of large groups and small groups. We will group participants with interests in children of the same age range.

Each session will focus on different topics, and you will be invited to continue your reflections in the time between sessions. These explorations will take place in an atmosphere of respect and every person’s choice is respected. The format will include:

  • Embodiment Meditations
  • Teaching and Presentations
  • Experiential Exercises
  • Small Group Sharing and Reflections
  • Take Home Tools and Practices

主導老師 Leaders
Wendy Lee Schulz B.
Ed, CCDP and Certificate in Counselling Haven
is passionate about all things related to communication. Understanding and being understood as a way to intimacy and close loving relationships. A parent to two sons ages 23 and 27, Wendy dedicated herself to becoming a parent she could be proud of by reading books, attending groups with other parents, taking what was good from her parents and attending courses and is now reaping the rewards of respectful and individual relationships with each of her sons. Wendy is a Parent Coach for parents who have children with anxiety, a Job Coach, and an entrepreneur.

溫蒂·李·舒爾茨
Ed、CCDP，加拿大海文學院心理諮商文憑
溫蒂對與溝通連結相關的所有事物充滿熱情，她認為「理解和被理解」是建立親密關係以及愛的關係的重要途徑。身為23歲和27歲兩個兒子的母親，溫蒂因自己多年來致力於研習精進成為更好的父母而感到驕傲，她與其他的父母一起參加團體成長課程，也從自己的父母那裡轉化挑戰為優勢，並持續在課程中學習成長，今天她成為自己可以引以為豪的母親，現在她正在收穫著這美好的禮物，與她兩個兒子間彼此尊重且人性化的親子關係。溫蒂的專業是：為有焦慮症孩子的父母提供的親子教育的教練、職涯發展教練，也是一位企業家。

Wen-Shwu Lee
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA
Wenshwu is passionate as a corporate trainer and coach she is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross cultural environments. Her leading style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates business trainings with personal experiences. She applies ideas of coaching, counseling, and creativity in the series of heart-brain integrated leadership development programs. She leads and assists personal growth workshops and leadership programs in China, Taiwan, and Canada. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is one of the Directors on The Haven Board and a member on the Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.

李文淑
加拿大The Haven学院心理谘商文凭、企业教练硕士认证、企管硕士、艺术学士、文学士
文淑是一位热情, 专业, 平易近人的导师, 她拥有跨东西文化的丰富人生阅历. 她的教学以人性为出发点, 在她热情关怀和洞察人心的教学风格中, 文淑有效整合了她的企业背景与生活经验, 巧妙地将教练领导, 心理咨商, 与创意启发等不同的技巧融会应用于身心整合与全人启发的人才培育工作中。多年来她在加拿大, 中国大陆以及台湾教授个人成长以及领导力开发课程, 引导学员从桎梏的个人模式中, 转化压力为有效的资源, 蜕变出每一个人的独特魅力与全方位的领袖风范。文淑目前是加拿大著名的潜能开发学院 The Haven Institute 的董事以及核心导师, 同时她是乐泉咨询顾问公司The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. 的创办人。

Partnership
This program is a partnership between The Haven (Canada) and The China Team. We are grateful of the co-sponsorship so we can continue to offer transformational programs through The Haven and internationally. It is recommended that you download WeChat so that you can receive the recordings and program reminders more easily.