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愛神與親密： 啓動生命的原創力 線上雙語課程

Eros and Intimacy: Connecting with Your Creative Life Force ~ Bilingual Online Program

| 導師：Elfi Dillon-Shaw + 李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
| 時間：6/19, 20, 26, 27, 2021
| 學員：121人

課程回顧
我們的參與者人數再創新高 — 121人（36人來自加拿大Haven網站，85人來自中國團隊網站）。參與者來自四大洲12個國家：

歐洲 – 巴黎/法國、羅馬/意大利、瑞士
北美 – 洛杉磯/舊金山/達拉斯/美國，加布里奧拉島/加拿大
大洋洲 – 新西蘭、悉尼/澳大利亞
亞洲 – 中國、台灣、馬來西亞、新加坡、日本

我們這次課程有8個男性，這次所有的註冊者都是中國背景。對於這樣一個敏感話題，尤其是在中國和東方文化的背景下，我們從參與學員那裡收到了非常好的回響。我對 Elfi 老師深表感謝 – 感謝您如此深入和豐富地引導了這次學習旅程。 還要感謝整個團隊，包括加拿大的海文工作夥伴和中國團隊，以及我們來自中國和台灣16名實習生，他們在線上和線下為16個小組提供關懷與支持。 這是一個團隊合作和共同創造的過程。 謝謝你們！

We had a new high on the number of participants – 121 (36 from Haven Canada website and 85 from The China Team’s website). The participants came from four continents covering 12 countries:

Europe – Paris/France, Rome/Italy, Switzerland
North America – LA/Sanfrancisco/Dallas/USA, Gabriola/Canada
Oceania – New Zealand, Sydney/Australia
Asia – China, Taiwan, Malaysia, Singapore, Japan

We had 8 males on the program, and this time all registrants are Chinese background. We received extremely well feedbacks from participants for a sensitive topic as such, especially in a context of China and Chinese culture. My deep appreciation to Elfi – for your heart and skills in guiding the program in such depth and richness. I also want to give my appreciation to the whole team, including the Haven in Canada and the China Team, and our 16 interns from China and Taiwan who facilitated the 16 small groups online and offline. This is a teamwork and a process of co-creation. Thank you ALL!

讓生命充滿活力與趣味
愛神（愛洛斯）的力量，或者説：生命的能量，也就是創造的力量，讓我們與生命活水和大自然連結。這股力量在我們的身體內不斷循環，也讓我們相互吸引，我們每一個人的生命也因著倆人的愛神之舞而誕生！

人際關係中，愛神（愛洛斯）的能量常會造成我們之間的誤解、困擾、羞愧，和罪惡感。但是，如果我們能學習把心敞開，深入了解愛神的智慧與能量，誏這股能量在我們的生命和人際關係中不斷循環，我們就能打開我們的感官知覺，無論是和自己獨處，或是與他人同在，我們能夠學習全然地活在生命的喜悅中。在我們了解和分享愛神的智慧時，我們也學習擁抱脆弱並且真實存在。

在這個充滿冒險的精彩課程中，我們邀請您一起來學習，如何滋養並連結愛神的能量。假設您有伴侶，您也可以練習如何將這些美妙的經驗與您的伴侶分享。經由身心合一的體驗，分享對話，以及自我省思，期待大家都有機會一起洞見連結愛神能量與靈性經驗的新視野。

在大多數恩愛的伴侶間，愛神的能量有時候也會如潮水般的消退；在關係中這可能會帶來苦痛和誤解。課程中我們會一起來探索如何不是以羞愧，而是用一顆誠摯並充滿愛的心來溝通我們逐漸消退的愛神能量。

每次的課程將以不同的焦點來深入我們的主題「愛神與親密」，我們邀請學員在課程與課程間持續地反思落實所學。課中所有的探索練習也將尊重個人不同的選擇以及尊重界限的方式進行。課程的形式包括：

  • 身心合一的靜心冥想
  • 愛神和親密主題簡報
  • 創意與經驗式的學習
  • 小組分享與自我省思
  • 回家作業的落地實習

課程主題與重點

  • 活在愛洛斯能量大海中的七個元素：感官知覺、性感能量、角色物化、親密連結、性別認同、全人健康，靈性價值。
  • 在感官知覺中的生命甦醒
  • 性感能量與角色物化：性感與權力的關係，浪漫過後的愛神探索
  • 親密連結：關係中的愛神之舞，渴望安定與渴望新奇的對立與包容，從權力邁向連結
  • 全人健康：身體的、靈性的、以及關係的，性別角色，靈性價值

Daily life as “For Play”
Erotic energy, or life energy, is the creative force that moves us into connection with life and with nature. It circulates within our own bodies and draws us to another. Each one of us began life through the dance of Eros between two people.

In human relationships sexual erotic energy can often be a source of misunderstanding and struggle, shame and guilt. With open hearts and deeper understanding about how erotic energy moves through our life and relationship cycles we can learn how to open to the pleasure of being fully alive in our senses, alone, and with each other. We learn to embrace the vulnerability and revelation that accompany erotic knowledge and sharing.

In this course you will be invited to learn how to nurture and engage your own erotic energy and, if you are partnered, how to share this with your loved one. We offer insight into the connection between erotic and spiritual experiencing through body centered learning, through dialogue with one another and self-reflection.

Erotic energy will ebb and flow even in the most loving couple. This could bring about suffering and misunderstanding in their relationship. We will explore how to communicate our erotic being with less shame, with honesty, and a loving heart.

Each session will focus on different topics related to Eros and Intimacy and you will be invited to continue your reflections in the time between sessions. These explorations will take place in an atmosphere of respect and every person’s choice is respected. The format will include:

  • Embodiment meditations
  • Presentations about Eros and Intimacy in Relationships
  • Experiential exercises
  • Small group sharing and reflections
  • Take home practices

Topics and Highlights

  • Overview on Perspectives of Erotic Living – The Seven Circles of Sexuality: Sensuality, Sexualization, Objectification, Intimacy, Sexual Identity, Whole Person Sexual Health and
  • Spirituality/Values
  • Sensuality: coming alive in the body through senses
  • Sexualization/Objectification: sex and power, sexuality post romance
  • Intimacy: eros in relationships, the desire for comfort vs the desire for novelty, the willingness to move from power to connection
  • Whole Person Sexual Health: physical/spiritual/relational, gender identity and roles, the role of values and spirituality in erotic life

導師介紹 About the Leaders


艾爾菲 Elfi Dillon-Shaw
海文心理諮商文憑，資深身體工作者，在個人肢體開發與全人健康教育上有20年的教學經驗，艾爾菲主要帶領的課程有：生命力的覺察，身體的工作，壓力管理，性智商，女性能量的開發，愛神的力量與親密連結，艾爾菲在1983年即加入海文，是海文的最資深導師之一。

Elfi Dillon-Shaw , Dip-C, is a massage practitioner, bodyworker and educator with 20 years’ experience fostering experiences of pleasure and well-being. She teaches programs on sexuality, body practices and stress management, including Sexual Intelligence, Stirring the Cauldron, and Eros and Intimacy (with her husband Gary Dillon). She has worked at The Haven since 1983.


李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification
加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監

文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。

Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.