關係中的衝突與共創 線上雙語課程
Conflict and Co-creation in Relationships ~ Bilingual Online Program
| 導師：Cathy McNally + 李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
| 時間：12/4, 5, 11, 12, 2021
| 學員：63人
課後回顧
這次課程我們有63位學員（18位來自加拿大海文網站，45位來自中國團隊的網站）。我們從學員那裡收到了非常好的反饋，特別是關於Cathy老師的個人分享和專業指導。非常感謝Cathy — 感謝你慷慨地向中國團隊捐贈了你的導師費用。一如既往地我要感謝整個團隊，包括我們的加拿大海文團隊和中國團隊，我們來自中國和台灣的15位小組老師，他們在線上和線下為10個小組提供了課間以及課後的支持與輔導。 這是一個團隊合作和共同創造的過程。謝謝你們每一位的付出！
We had 63 (18 from Haven website and 45 from The China Team). We received very good feedbacks from participants about Cathy’s personal sharing and professional guidance. My deep appreciation to Cathy – for your generous donation of your leader’s fee to The China Team. My appreciation to the whole team as always, including our Haven and The China Team, our 15 small group leaders from China and Taiwan who facilitated the 10 small groups online and offline. This is a teamwork and a process of co-creation. Thank you ALL!
關係中的衝突與共創
“讓一個人去愛另一個人, 這可能是所有任務中最艱難最極致的一件, 也是我們最後的試驗和證明. 為做好這件事, 我們所有其他的工作都是為此而做的準備.”
誠如著名的德國詩人萊納·瑪利亞·里爾克所言，人際關係常是我們生命中最艱苦的工作，然而也是最美好的禮物。在不曾停下腳步的忙碌世界裡，我們花在周遭重要關係的時間卻是越來越少。當全球疫情劇烈地改變著世界以及我們的此刻，也許正是重新審視我們重要人際關係的最佳時機。這個課程適用於我們所有生活與工作中的重要關係：夫妻、家人、朋友和同事。課程中我們將一起檢視我們如何參與並促成了這些重要關係的互動；在衝突和差異中我們如何了解自己並再次認識他人；我們如何使用有效的工具來進行重要卻難以啟齒的對話；更重要的，我們如何學習待在失去愛之後的苦痛中，更深入地探索埋藏在深處的愛與感受。這個課程是我們2021年終全球雙語線上學習的高點，課程將提供難能可貴反思和更新的機會 — 尤其當我們面臨各種宏觀和微觀挑戰的時刻。這個線上學習的平台不僅創造了你我連結的機緣，也是我們可以一起成長共創的園地！加拿大Haven學院兩位精彩的核心導師麥凱西Cathy McNally和李文淑Wen-Shwu Lee期待年底與你線上見面，共創又一次的豐富之旅。
課程重點
- 「你」就是改善關係的關鍵
如果沒有付諸心力來耕耘我們的重要關係，這些關係就會逐漸消退。無論是在家或在職，與家人、同事或朋友相處，缺少滋養的關係終究趨向疏離。疏離所造成的猜測、誤解和衝突等惡性循環的機會也因此增加。你是否經常使用無意識的「自動駕駛」而匆忙度過人生？其實改善關係的途徑始於「你」自已！讓我們了解人類的感知、壓力，並學習覺察與專注，讓我們一起練習有效的工具來提高我們的意識，並改善我們的關係。 - 衝突、價值觀和進行重要的對話
生活中我們都曾面對極具挑戰的人和情境，我們都有被激怒的經驗。你的激怒點是什麼？你又如何反應？有些人會生氣或吵鬧，有些人會閉嘴或沉默；這些常見的即時反應都將導致關係出現問題。這兩種方式都讓我們迴避了關係中重要的對話。讓我們來探索這些衝突背後潛在的問題，如何讓衝突變為禮物？在衝突中我們如何因重要的對話而使生活變得更寬闊！ - 面對逝去的愛 — 我以為我知道了關係的一切……！
凱西老師有三段主要的關係，她經歷過離婚、伴侶逝去，之後又在60多歲時開始約會戀愛。歡迎加入凱西老師的分享，聽聽她現身說法她的故事 – 她在關係中的學習和成長。聽到她的故事之後，也許你我也有機會來學習洞察力，重新審視我們的關係與生活。 - 整合並深化我們的學習探索
這次的豐富之旅也是共創的園地，學員們所面臨的議題以及關注的領域，將是彼此最好的借鏡與參考。課程中我們將利用時間進行小組互動與大組問答，期待與你一起共創這次豐富的學習經驗，也期待經由有效的工具來協助提升你的生命活力和關係品質。
Conflict and Co-creation in Relationships
“For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.”
Like the above quote by Rainer Maria Rilke, relationships are the hardest work we do and the greatest gift when they are working. In our busy world we have devoted less and less time to them. In the pandemic we had sudden big changes. Now more than ever is a good time to revisit relationships. This program is for couples, families, friends, and co-workers – it applies to all important relationships in our life or work. Together we will examine how we participate in and contribute to these important relational dynamics; how we understand ourselves and others through conflicts and differences; how we use effective tools to carry out important yet difficult conversations; most of all how we explore deeper our loving in discomfort and after losses. This is our 2021 year-end highlight of the Haven Global Bilingual Programs – it provides great opportunities to review and renew – especially in our macro and micro challenges. Not only is this the place we connect but also where we grow! Our two wonderful Haven core faculty members Cathy McNally and Wen-Shwu Lee will facilitate this journey of richness with you, and we look forward to meeting you online!
Highlights
- YOU are Key to Better Relationships
If you aren’t working on the relationships that are important to you, they will decline. Without attention people drift apart, at home, at work, with family or friends. The chance for assumptions, misunderstandings and conflict grow. How often are you on ‘automatic pilot,’ rushing through your life? The path to better relationships begins with you. Learn about human perception, stress, and mindful focus. Practice techniques to increase your awareness and improve any relationship - Conflict, Values, and Important Conversations
We all have people and situations that are very challenging. Times when we get triggered. What are yours? How do you react? Some get angry or loud, others shut down or are silent. Each way causes problems. Both ways avoid important conversations. Come and explore what is underlying, how conflict can be a gift, and the important conversations that can benefit your life. - Loving after Loss – I thought I knew everything about relationship …!
Cathy has been in three primary relationships, experiencing divorce, death, and then dating in her 60s. Join Cathy as she shares her story of learning and growing in relationship. Gain insights to take back into your own relationship and your life. - Integration and Deepening
This course is also a co-creation field. We believe that the emerging issues and key areas of interest may provide each other the best lessons and references. There will be time for group discussions, Q&A, as well as review of useful tools for aliveness and co-creativity in your life and relationships.
主導老師 Leaders
麥凱西Cathy McNally
理學士BSc，心理諮商文憑DipC
凱西對人以及生命的可能性充滿了熱情。她在中西融合的文化中成長，她擁有商業和團隊管理的背景。凱西對差異可能帶來的禮物充滿了好奇，她致力於建立連結和創造彼此了解的機會。對於教練引領各種關係的互動凱西有著濃厚的熱情。 在經歷了重大的生命變故之後，她仍然通過運動、聲音、創造、自然、愛慾，以及社團，持續不斷在探索生命活力、分離失落，以及追求意義的旅程上前行。 她的座右銘：善良、關懷以及樂趣，使她成為廣受歡迎的團體帶領人。 自1989年與 The Haven加拿大海文學院建立關係以來，凱西認為「一起 – 好好生活」是必要、緊迫，並且是可能的。凱西目前是加拿大著名的潛能開發學院 The Haven Institute 的董事以及核心導師。
Cathy McNally is passionate about people and possibility. Growing up in a mix of cultures, with a background in business and teams, Cathy is curious about the gift of differences, and is committed to connection and understanding. A particular joy is coaching relationships of all kinds. Following a major life change, she is exploring aliveness, loss and meaning through the adventure of movement, voice, creativity, nature, eros and community. Her trademark kindness, caring and fun make her a sought-after group leader. Associated with The Haven since 1989, Cathy believes that “living well, together” is necessary, urgent, and possible. Cathy is currently one of the Directors on The Haven Board and a member of The Haven Core Faculty.
李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification
加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監
文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。
Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.
