Youth Leadership – Relational Growth, Bilingual Online Program

| 導師：李文淑 ＆ Jamison Schulz-Franco
| 時間：Feb. 12, 13, 19, 20, 2022
| 人數：73

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賈米森和我在 2022 年 2 月完成了這個有意義的課程。

在 2022 年 2 月我們進行的是「青年領導力」的第二階段：「在關係中成長茁壯」的主題，我們有 73 名學員報名註冊。 我們不斷從在地的中國團隊和參與學員那裡收到良好的反饋 — 他們的反饋主要圍繞著：這次課程的雙導師是跨代共同領導，還有主題的實用性，以及這是為年輕族群特別設計的課程，其中涵義深遠。

賈米森，我喜歡和你一起工作，很欣賞你如何一步一步地展現自己，並在你的熱情和真實中閃耀。 你的個人分享給人們留下了美好的印象。 希望你有信心和勇氣為你是誰感到自豪，並看到你在所選擇的專業中具有成為領導者的潛力。

最後也是重要的是中國團隊和加拿大海文團隊之間的團隊協作 — 我知道每一步都充滿挑戰，然而我們堅持不懈，從心底深處我感謝你們！

Jamison and I have accomplished this meaningful project in Feb. 2022.

On Part B in Feb. 2022, we have 73 registrants. We have been receiving good feedbacks from both the local team and the participants – their feedbacks are mostly around the cross-generational co-leadership, the practicality of the topics and the meaningfulness of this project.

Jamison, I enjoy working with you, and I appreciate how you step-by-step bringing yourself forth and shine in your passion and authenticity. Your personal sharing has left good impression on people. I wish you faith and courage to be proud of who you are and see your potential as a wonderful leader in your chosen profession.

Most importantly is the teamwork between the China Team and the Haven Team – I know every step is challenging and we are hanging in. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

青年領導力 – 在關係中成長茁壯
Youth Leadership – Relational Growth

歡迎19~35歲的青年朋友們，一起加入我們共創生命的成長之路！
We welcome youth aged 19-35. Join us as we explore and co-create in the adventure of life!

通常我們會以我們所做的工作，我們的交友圈，或是我們的專業成就來定義自己。我們常被告知，年輕正是成長和改變的關鍵時期！我們也被期待著，在兼顧無數其他任務的『同時，』我們不要錯失了這關鍵的年輕時刻！現在加上當今政治和社會的動盪，抗爭衝突，以及全球疫情蔓延，年輕族群的生活真的變成了壓力，而不再是樂趣！無論清晰與否，我們對生活總有願景，我們規劃著如何向世界、向家人，或是向我們的伴侶證明自己。然而，面對這種種喘不過氣的壓力，學校與社會教育給年輕人的，似乎只是讓我們精進在個人的專業科目上，並沒有真正引導我們如何向內看，與自己的情感連結，面對失敗挫折，或者如何建立親密關係。在不了解自己的前提下，我們又怎麼知道自己想要什麼？

這個課程回應了上述的需求，是特別為19~35歲的年輕朋友們所設計的，它將指引只有一次年輕機會的您成為自己生命的領導人，您將學習如何掌握自己的生活。課程中會提供不同的工具，讓您與自己建立信任的關係，同時成長過程中許多與您有類似經歷的人，他們也有著內在的情緒，您會有機會與他人練習敞開心的對話。與他人真誠分享的美妙之處，就是讓您可以在相互支持的環境中真實展現自己，同時學習建立共同創造的人際關係。這個學習平台提供了安全的界限，讓夥伴們可以共同探索彼此的情緒和關係中面臨的挑戰。期待我們能ㄧ起為自己建立穩固的基礎，在這基礎之上我們可以成長，課程所學也將在您未來的人生持續產生助益。

這次課程我們難得請到跨代跨文化的双人組：六十歲來自台灣的李文淑搭配二十歲來自加拿大的傑米森！在領導力以及企業人才培育有長年經驗的文淑老師大家並不陌生，在此特別介紹年輕充滿活力的傑米森 (Jamison Schulz-Franco)給大家認識：傑米森和文淑目前都是海文學院的董事，可以猜測得到傑米森是目前海文最年輕的董事。傑米森之前多次參與協助加拿大海文學院的青年領導力課程，在那些工作經驗中他了解到，他的恐懼很大的程度抑制了他對冒險的渴望。他指出，在探索自己的渴望時感到內疚，直到他學會真實表達他的恐懼，他才真正發掘出自己的特質。渴望是深入未知領域的探索 — 與蹣跚學步的我們在學會自由奔跑時的內在喜悅重新連結，夢想著我們成年後會做的驚人的事情。如果我們壓抑自己的渴望，就會對自己和所愛的人感到麻木。這個精彩的課程提供了一個安全的時空來探索我們的內在世界，同時學習創造健康持久並且令人滿意的關係。

我們將深入探索關係的互動與成長 — 通過了解自己，我們得以了解他人，我們將學習如何與自己、彼此和世界共存。在健康關係的基礎上，我們能夠溝通連結，建立親密的關係。加入我們！讓我們一起敞開心來探討有關同理心、界限等重要的主題！

每堂課都會針對不同主題做探索，課間我們也邀請您針對所學做反思，這些探索會在彼此尊重的氛圍中進行，每個人的選擇都將被尊重。課程進行的方式包括：

• 律動，呼吸及當下覺察的練習
• 課程簡報及主題講述
• 創意與經驗式學習
• 小組分享與互動
• 大組問答
• 回家作業身體力行

課程主題與重點

• 青年領導人的溝通藝術 Communication & Connection – 如何在不同意與衝突立場中保持好奇
• 青年領導人的親密關係 Intimate Relationship – 如何在關係中既有連結做自己
• 性的兩種面向：愛與欲求 Love and Desire – 什麼是愛？什麼是欲求？創造健康關係中平衡學習的機會
• 青年領導人所面臨的世紀挑戰 World Challenges – 我們的未來在那裡？我們可以做些什麼？

合作夥伴
這是一個加拿大海文和中國團隊的跨國合作！感謝双方的合作我們才有機會將海文精彩的課程持續地從加拿大本土推廣到全球的平台上。

So often we define ourselves by our jobs, our friend groups, our occupations, and our accomplishments. As young people we are told that we are in a crucial period of growth and change, yet the expectation is that we do that while managing a thousand other tasks, all at once. When you pile on political and social upheaval, war and conflict, and a worldwide pandemic, life can become more of a stress than a pleasure. Whether we know it or not, we have a vision for our lives, mapping out how we want to prove ourselves to the world, to our families and to our partners. In school we are told about all the careers that we may follow to fulfill us, but we are not taught how to check-in with our emotional center, how to face our failures or frustrations, or how to be intimate with others. How are we supposed to know what we want in our lives, without truly knowing ourselves first?
This program responds to the above questions, and it’s designed for our youth friends aged 19 to 35. It offers a guide for you to be your own leader so that you can lead your own life. We offer tools to create a trusting relationship with yourself while having open conversations with others who are experiencing the emotions of early adulthood alongside you. The beauty of sharing yourself with others is that you learn to co-create relationships with people who support you to bring your most authentic self forward. This platform is offered so that we have a safe space to explore our emotions and our relationships, to create a foundation of ourselves that we can work with and continue to work from for the rest of our lives.

We have unique cross-generational co-leadership team in this program: 61-year-old Wen-Shwu Lee and 21-year-old Jamison Schulz-Franco. You may know Wen-Shwu who has spent many years devoting herself to leadership training and emotional development programs at the Haven. We are excited to introduce Jamison, who like Wen-Shwu, is also a Director on the Haven Board. From his previous experiences facilitating the Haven Youth Leadership programs, Jamison has learned how much his fears withhold his desire for adventure. He notes that he has felt guilt in exploring his desires, and it wasn’t until he voiced his fears that he has been able to discover and be in his element. Jamison realizes desire is exploring the unknown – a reconnection to the joyful voice within that we let run free as toddlers, dreaming of the amazing things we would do as adults. If we suppress our desires, we can feel numb to ourselves and our loved ones. This program offers a safe space to explore our internal states, while learning to create truly fulfilling relationships that are healthy and sustainable.

In February 2022, we will explore relational growth (the idea that by learning about ourselves we learn about others). How can we be present with ourselves, each other, and the world? At a healthy relationship’s foundation, we find communication, connection, and intimacy. Join us as we have an open conversation around empathy, boundaries and more!

Each session will focus on different topics, and you will be invited to continue your reflections in the time between sessions. These explorations will take place in an atmosphere of respect, where every person’s choice is honored. The format will include:

• Embodied movement, breathing and mindfulness exercises
• Lectures and presentations
• Experiential exercises
• Small group sharing and reflections
• Big group Q&A
• Take home practices

Topics and Highlights

• Communication & Connection – How to remain curious in conflicts and amidst differences.
• Intimate Relationship – The dance between being me and being in relationship.
• Love and Desire – What is love and what is desire – finding balance in healthy relationships.
• World Challenges – Where are we headed and what can we do?

Partnership
This program is a partnership between The Haven (Canada) and our China Team. We are grateful of the co-sponsorship so we can continue to offer transformational programs through The Haven and internationally. It is recommended that you download WeChat so that you can receive the recordings and program reminders more easily.

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導師簡介

傑米森 Jamison Schulz-Franco
傑米森最近畢業於加拿大多倫多的瑞爾森大學。他在加拿大海文學院的經典課程『聚光燈下的孩子』和『青少年潛力甦醒』有超過十五年的參與以及實習經驗。從大學最後一年開始，傑米森希望分享他在情緒覺察上的體驗，他希望與朋友和同事之間開啟更開放並有益身心健康的對話。作為一個混血兒，傑米森堅定的倡導種族平等、公正和包容，他對人性化的連結充滿了熱情。 傑米森最近開始與加拿大維多利亞移民和難民中心工作，這是一個橫跨不列顛哥倫比亞省的反種族主義和反仇恨工作組織。

Jamison Schulz-Franco is a recent graduate of Ryerson University in Toronto, Canada. He has over 15 years of experience as a participant and an intern in both Kids in the Spotlight and Teens Alive at the Haven. Through his final year of university and beyond, Jamison hopes to share his experience in emotional awareness programs to open a more open mental health dialogue for his friends and peers. As a mixed-race individual, Jamison is a strong advocate for racial equality, equity, and inclusion, and has a passion for human connection. Jamison recently started work with the Victoria Immigration and Refugee Centre Society in the Resilience Hub – an anti-racism and hate network across British Columbia.

李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification

加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監

文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。

Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.

Friendship and Beyond: Maria and Linda’s Journey ~ Bilingual Online Webinar

| 講師：琳達·尼科爾斯 Linda Nicholls
| 日期：Dec. 19, 2021
| 學員：680人

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謝謝您的支持與參與！Thank you for your support!
Haven團隊想表達我們對您衷心的感謝，感謝您加入 Linda Nicholls 在2021年十二月所講述有關她與 Maria Gomori 之間友誼的動人談話。

謝謝您的支持與參與！

這個活動總共有 680 人註冊，其中420 人加入我們當天的現場直播。在您的幫助下，我們籌集了超過 30,000 加元（150,000 元人民幣）來幫助 Haven 度過這個充滿挑戰的時刻 ！

加拿大 Haven 團隊還想對我們的中國團隊在這個活動上的支持表示我們深深的感謝 — 沒有你們，我們不可能做到的！特別感謝 Wei-Wei (Eric) 的翻譯 — 這是一項艱鉅的工作，而您做得這麼好。

我們的學員來自五大洲，覆蓋了世界許多角落，例如：
歐洲——法國、意大利、瑞士
北美 – 加拿大（從東海岸到西海岸）和美國
中美洲 – 哥斯達黎加
大洋洲 – 新西蘭、澳大利亞
亞洲 – 中國、馬來西亞、新加坡、日本、香港、台灣，等不同城市或地區。

再次感謝您！
寄上我們熱情地和所有的愛，

Haven團隊

We at Haven want to express our sincere and heart-felt gratitude to you for joining Linda Nicholls’ moving conversation about her friendship with Maria Gomori.

Thank you!

In total, 680 people registered and 420 were able to join us live. With your help, we raised just over $30,000 CAD (RMB$150,000) to help support Haven in this challenging time!!

The Canada Haven team also wants to express our deep gratitude to the China team for their support in making this program happen – we could not have done it without you! And a special thanks to Wei-Wei (Eric) for translation – it was a big job and you handled it with grace.

The participants were from five continents covering different corners on the globe, including:

Europe – France, Italy, Switzerland
North America – Canada (from coast to coast) and USA
Central America – Costa Rica
Oceania – New Zealand, Australia
Asia – China, Malaysia, Singapore, Japan, Hong Kong, Taiwan, and other cities and areas.

Thank you again!
Warmly and with all our Loving,

The Haven Team

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學員回饋 Participant‘s Feedbacks

王勇剛 Oscar, Dec. 19, 2021
今天听到Linda老师分享的，和Maria老师长达37年友谊旅程中的真实故事，特别感动和温暖。她们是那样的真实，靠近，生活化，会争吵、说闲话、闲扯、一起逛街买衣服，会因为难以聚焦而偏离计划，会觉得时间不够用 …，好像就是我们身边的邻家老太太，吵了又和好的好闺蜜一样。对彼此足够敞开和真实，不在关系中退缩，不用伪装成受害者去讨好对方，停止指责自我负责。冲突时选择把什么放在第一位？是友谊、连结、对对方的爱，还是自尊或面子？并好奇对方那样选择的原因，底层有怎样的价值观或信念？也放下要去改变对方的期待。我听到在Linda看来，Maria内在对于萨提亚和家庭治疗的热爱与承诺，对世界与生活充满着热情与好奇，是她长寿且充满活力的关键。让我们记得，不管怎样，都要去做真实的自己，活出自己的一致性。

Today I heard Linda’s sharing of the true stories of her 37-year friendship journey with Maria. I was particularly moved and feeling warm. They were so real, close, and down to their everyday life. They would quarrel, gossip, chatty, or go shopping and buy clothes. They would deviate from their planning and were difficult to stay focus. They found there was not enough time… It seems they are the old ladies next to us, who fight with each other and then make peace as good friends. They were open and congruent with each other. They didn’t withdraw themselves from their relationship. They didn’t pretend to be victims to please each other. They found ways to stop accusing and became self-responsible. What do we choose to put first in conflicts? Is it friendship, connection, love for each other, or self-esteem or keeping face? And be curious about the underneath reason of the other person’s choice; what kind of values ​​or beliefs does the other person have? Also let go the expectations of changing the other person! I heard from Linda’s perspective that Maria’s profound love and commitment to Satir Family Therapy, and her passion and curiosity about the world and life are the keys to her longevity and vitality. Let us remember, no matter what, let’s be true to ourselves and live alive in our congruency.

五月胡（胡雪梅）, Dec. 19, 2021
2021/12/19今天是我的生日，没想到在线上听Linda导师同玛丽亚导师的分享会度过。两位心理学大师之间也会吵架，也会做一些不顾对方的事情，然后又回到关系中，我顿时觉得对自己的批判少多了。突然反观到，我以前在关系中，面对对方的愤怒生气吵架，我总是很紧张。防卫模式和攻击指责模式便在这儿启动。感受到玛丽亚老师的灵动感，即使惹到对方生气远离，我也仍然可以回到关系中，说我后悔了，重新去面对。对方的暴怒也没有什么太可怕的，心里多了一些允许，多了一眯眯的空间。这些微允许和空间的突然出现，对我特别宝贵。说到玛利亚导师是怎么面对死亡时，我突然感觉自己和世界的连接大了一圈，感觉自己面对世界有了一点敞开感，视野好像也突然开阔了，虽然尚未看见什么，但我感受到连接已经开始有一点建立了。同时我也可以借由对世界的好奇感连接生命。谢谢连接发生在我生日的这一天，对我很有意义。

Today is my birthday, and I didn’t expect to spend my day online listening to the sharing of Linda and Maria. These two great psychologists also quarreled with each other, and would do something regardless to the other, and then return to their relationship. I suddenly sense that I am less critical of myself. Quickly and reflectively, I realize that I was always nervous when facing anger and quarrel in my past relationships. My defensive mode and attack accusation mode were activated then. I can sense the congruence and present flexibility of Maria – even if I annoyed the other person and the person stayed away, I could still return to the relationship, say I regret it, and face it again. There was nothing too terrifying about the other person’s rage. There was a little more permission in my heart, and there was more room for squinting. The momentary realization of these little permission and space is extremely precious to me. Speaking of how Maria faced death, I suddenly felt that I was connected to the world a bit bigger, and I felt a little open to the world, and my vision seemed to have suddenly widened. Although I haven’t seen anything yet, I feel that the connection has begun to happen little by little. At the same time, I can connect to life through my curiosity about the world. Thank you, the connection happened on this day of my birthday. It is very meaningful to me.

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《友谊与超越:琳达与玛莉亚的旅程》
-玛莉亚‧葛茉利Maria Gomori & 琳达·尼科尔斯Linda Nicholls –

中国时间2021年12月19日
（上午10:00-11:30）

緣起
非常哀恸地我们通知大家：Maria Gomori 已于 2021 年 12 月 10 日安祥离世。由于她对Haven的深爱，以及她希望海文能在全球疫情压力中幸存，因此在她临别前告诉Linda，一定要按原定计划坚持完成这次的募款活动。这场演讲谈论的是她与琳达之间的友谊，玛丽亚也特别交待了琳达她想让琳达讲述哪些故事。

欢迎你的加入，一起来参与这场引人入胜的分享， 一起见证两位智者传奇的生命故事及她们深厚友谊，一起聆听她们的：

• 生命与关系
• 亲密与友谊
• 成长与智慧
• 从相同点连接，在不同点成长

玛莉亚‧葛茉利在她的生活中几乎没有「女性朋友」。然而，30 多年前，当她和弗吉尼亚萨蒂尔一起在海文学院时，她遇到了琳达·尼科尔斯。她们来自截然不同的文化和教育背景，但随着时间的推移，她们建立了密切而持久的联系。她们曾在加拿大和中国合作，共同创建许多工作坊（包括 「过渡」这个课程）。她们也分享了许多的旅行与冒险，包括几个欧洲和南美国家、墨西哥、纽约市、蒙特利尔和以色列。她们有热爱自由和终身学习的共同价值观。Maria 和 Linda 持续发现她们之间的相同与不同之处，从而启发彼此对话并深入探索，也进一步丰富了她们之间的关系。
欢迎加入玛丽亚和琳达的行列，聆听她们的故事，故事中她们一起欢笑，同意彼此间的不同，相互爱戴并支持，跨越时空地连接彼此，同时也共创了她们持久的友谊。

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主讲导师
Linda Nicholls
琳达·尼科尔斯
心理学博士、加拿大海文学院心理咨询师资格证书获得者，海文学院首席团体课程导师。曾任加拿大海文学院行政总裁，现为加拿大海文学院第一梯队首席讲师和心理咨询师，主要带领《潜力苏醒》、《阶段一：自我觉察》、《阶段二：自我与他人》和《界限》、《阴影》、《生命力的觉察》、《超越局限 拓展新视野》等加拿大海文学院核心课程。琳达从事企业管理、行销30余年，担任欧美多家大型公司的高级顾问、教练导师、训练师，并曾服务于IBM、微软、加拿大政府等诸多机构、组织。琳达学习和应用心理学三十多年，有成功带领近千场工作坊之经验。

琳达擅长将心理学与个人生命经验的内省相结合，用生活和工作本身来观照理论；在处理个案时既能与学员慷慨分享自己丰富的情感与敏锐的同理心，同时又能用简明的理论来分析问题所在，让学员接纳和享受情感，然后带着觉察满足而归。因为这样的功力和职业背景，琳达在Haven学院、北美和世界各地的讲学中受到广泛的赞扬和爱戴。她与【中国●海文学院】合作十几年时间，担任近百场工作坊的主任导师。她以自己的专业为华为、居易联盟等众多中国企业提供组织培训服务，支持个人、团队、组织取得卓越而持续的进步。她的专业呈现与个人风范在学员中享有优秀口碑。

课程翻译
刘委伟
纽约大学Inner MBA（在读）
加拿大The Haven学院资深翻译
咨询师

2010年起，受训于加拿大The Haven学院国际心理咨询专业课程，2015年起在课程中担任翻译。
2018年起，跟随伯克利大学脑神经科学家Rick Hanson博士学习，接受正向脑神经重塑系统培训。
2021年9月，纽约大学 inner MBA。
2021年6月，哈佛大学Martha Beck博士Practical Way Finding Coaching培训。

委伟是一位专业的翻译和持续学习的咨询师，他既有一颗温暖柔软的心，又有一个思维缜密、逻辑清晰大脑，常常让前来咨询的学员感受到来自情感和智慧的双重滋养和启发。
他在加拿大海文亲密关系学院有将近10年的专业的学习和翻译经验，目前正在跟随伯克利大学Rick Hanson博士学习正向脑神经重塑课程，并在纽约大学Inner MBA项目中学习进修。他立志服务于这个世界，减少人们心灵的苦难，提升学员和客户的幸福感。

Awakening from the Past Level II: From Resources to Resilience
Awakening from the Past Level III: Compassionate Connections with Ourselves and Others

線上雙語課程 Bilingual Online Program
| 階段二時間：9/11, 12, 18, 19, 2021; 學員：75人
| 階段三時間：10/16 ,17 ,30 ,11/1, 2021; 學員：79人
| 導師：Graemme Brown + 李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee

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課程回顧
從過去覺醒的階段 II 和 III 課程中，我們連續收到了關於這兩個程序的讚賞反饋。反饋的亮點是人們如何欣賞在線學習的深度和身心體驗性，以及 Graemme老師如何富有創意和實用性地將不同學派的學習融入這一系列的線上課程中，其中包括了：Haven、Satir、SE、Polyvagal、IFS等，這真是很精彩的學習整合 ！

This is to provide you the summary report of the Sep./Oct. Bilingual Awakening from the Past Level II & III Programs. Not a surprise we received wonderful feedbacks on these two programs in a roll. The highlights of the feedbacks are how people appreciate the depth and embodied learning online, and how Graemme creatively and practically integrated different schools of learning to this series of programs, such as Haven, Satir, SE, Polyvagal, IFS, etc. which is amazing!

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學員回饋

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從過去覺醒 II：整合資源讓我們在挑戰中培養韌性
Awakening from the Past II: From Resources to Resilience

從過去中覺醒 III：與自己和他人慈悲共振的連結
Awakening from the Past III: Compassionate Connections with Ourselves and Others

九月和十月份的中英双語課程邀請到海文的核心導師葛萊姆老師Graemme Brown，和李文淑老師Wen-Shwu Lee一起，帶領大家探索從過去覺醒的可能性，期待以身心整合的方式繼續在建構人際關係上提供新的可能性。課堂中我們會持續深入對我們現在生活的種種影響力，以及如何應對。我們的目標並不是改變過去，而是改變我們與過去的關係，讓我們更全然豐盛的活在當下。

九月份精彩的學習旅程：「從過去覺醒 II：整合資源讓我們在挑戰中培養韌性Awakening from the Past II: From Resources to Resilience」，我們會探索「全然存在」的方法：身體、思想、精神和情感。以慈悲心來理解我們早期的生活經歷，並將其轉化為有效的資源，以培養經營我們當前健康的人際關係。

為什麼「身體」在這個過程中如此重要呢？我們不能只使用認知或正念方法嗎？身體是生命力的容器，也是我們健康幸福的重要本質。我們需要在「平靜」和「興奮」這兩個面向平衡地調節我們的能量和情緒。想像一下，在必要時，我們能夠保持冷靜，腳踏實地，同時當您想要全然體驗當刻生命力的時候，您也可以同時保持興奮和擁抱當下。

課程中我們將練習如何識別，以「身體感知」的經驗式學習來探索我們的內部資源，以及與他人連結時在身體層面的體悟。學習的過程中我們可以在身體和心理上創造一份安全感，而這份安全感會是一個平台，日後我們在此基礎上將承擔必要的風險來持續成長，持續探索生命的奧妙。每個人內在都有這種與生俱來的「韌性」，我們需要與這個本然具足的能力重新連接，有意識地使用它來創造身心合一愛的體驗。這次的課程是通往「身體中的靈性」大門，或某些人稱之為「當下」的體驗之門。

十月份我們繼續學習的旅程：「從過去中覺醒 III：與自己和他人慈悲共振的連結 Awakening from the Past III: Compassionate Connections with Ourselves and Others」，我們將持續深入「全然存在」模式的練習，轉化我們過往的經驗為有效的資源，來搭建目前健康的人際關係。

這一系列的學習我們會談到「依戀」，這是我們在嬰兒時期與主要照顧者建立連結的方式，它也是我們如何形成所有未來關係的地圖或「藍圖」。好消息是，這些依戀模式可以被理解和轉化，以培養令人滿意的人際關係，讓我們可以清楚地看到自己的需求以及他人的需求。

另外，我們也將探索「調節」，這是我們管理自己的神經系統，而不成為奴隸的方法（我們稱「成為奴隸」的狀態為「失調」“Dys-Regulation”）。我們如何調節神經系統（以及情緒）的能力與我們的依戀模式是直接相關的，許多關係中的困難都可追溯回我們對彼此依戀風格的誤解，從而引發了強烈的情緒反應。

這個豐富的學習旅程，我們也會學習去瞭解與表達不同人不同「愛的語言」（他人也會來學習您的「愛的語言」），這是以慈悲心通過神經系統的共同調節，來幫助我們建立關係中的安全感。這些「愛的語言」適用於各種關係：浪漫、友誼、家庭、工作/同學或是同事。

雖然我們建議先完成「從過去覺醒 I：以身心整合的方式建構家庭關係新契機」課程，但這不是必需的，這三次不同階段的學習旅程可以相輔相成，同時也可以各自獨立。我們鼓勵參加課程之前有一些個人成長經驗（例如：海文、薩提爾、個人諮詢/治療等）是有幫助的。

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課程重點
從過去覺醒 II：整合資源讓我們在挑戰中培養韌性

• 探索持續衝擊您今天的生活以及您是誰的主要影響力
• 與您內在不同的自己，不同的「部分」進行慈悲的對話（尤其是羞愧的自己和自我批評的部分）
• 脆弱、防禦、「期望矩陣」、渴望：期望之下的普遍人類需求
• 一致性溝通的深入學習
• 這是以海文教學模式為核心的課程，同時我們也將採用下列學者的理念方法作為補充教學，讓每次的課程更為豐盛完整：彼得·萊文(Peter Levine)、維吉尼亞·薩提爾(Virginia Satir)、理查·施瓦茨(Richard Schwarz)、尤金·詹德林(Eugene Gendlin)、史蒂芬·波吉斯(Stephen Porges)，和馬丁·普雷希特爾

從過去中覺醒 III：與自己和他人慈悲共振的連結

• 依戀理論的實際應用
• 識別您的自主神經系統狀態，並學習如何整合以進行情緒的自我護理
• 自我調節和共同調節（為什麼兩者都是必要的）
• 在您的重要關係中創建「人際互動目標」的練習
• 了解並練習表達不同人不同「愛的語言」
• 這是以海文教學模式為核心的課程，同時我們也將採用下列學者的理念方法作為補充教學，讓每次的課程更為豐盛完整：彼得·萊文(Peter Levine)、約翰·包爾比(John Bowlby)、道格拉斯·維尼考特(Douglas Winnicott)、瑪莉·安斯沃斯(Mary Ainsworth)、勞倫斯·黑勒(Laurence Heller), 艾林拉·培爾(Aline LaPierre),尤金·詹德林(Eugene Gendlin)、黛安·寶海勒(Diane Poole-Heller)、蘇·詹森(Sue Johnson)、蓋瑞·崔普曼(Gary Chapman) 和史蒂芬·波吉斯(Stephen Porges)。

For the coming September and October Bilingual Online Program – our Haven Core Facilitators Graemme Brown and Wen-Shwu Lee will continue to apply a mind-body approach to provide a different perspective on our relationships. In this workshop, we will further the exploration of the influences on us in our present and daily life. Our aim is to not change the past but to change our relationship with the past and begin to live more fully in the present.

In September on our journey of “Awakening from the Past II: From Resources to Resilience” we will explore a ‘whole-being’ approach (Body, Mind, Spirit and Emotions) to compassionately understand and transform our early life experiences into resources that we can use to nurture our present-day relationships.

Why is the ‘body’ such an important part of this process? Can’t we just use cognitive or mindfulness approaches? The body is the container for our life-force: That vital essence of our well-being. We need to be able to regulate our energy and emotions in both directions: Calming and Exciting. Imagine being able to be calm and grounded when necessary *and* also be excited and remain present when you want to experience that aspect of your life-force.

By identifying and working to gain a ‘felt-sense’ of our internal resources and connections with others, we can create a sense of safety in our own bodies and minds. This sense of safety is a platform that we will build on to take the necessary risks to grow and explore our lives. We all have this innate ‘Resilience’ within us: We need to re-connect with it and consciously use it to create an embodied experience of loving. This is the doorway to experiences of ‘spirit in the body’ or as some call it, ‘Presence.’

On the October Program “Awakening from the Past III: Compassionate Connections with Ourselves and Others” we will continue to deepen the ‘whole-being’ approach to compassionately understand and transform our past experiences into resources and to nurture and enrich our relationships.

In this 3rd part of the programme, we will explore the concept of “Attachment” – which is the name given to how we form connections with our primary caregivers when we are infants. They are a map or ‘blueprint’ of how we will form all our future relationships. The good news is that these attachment patterns can be understood and transformed to nurture deeply satisfying relationships, seeing our own and others’ needs very clearly.

We will also learn the approach of “Regulation” – which is the name given to how we take charge of our nervous system rather than being a slave to it (which we call “Dysregulation”). Our ability to regulate our nervous system (and therefore our emotions) is directly connected to our attachment patterns. Many relationship difficulties can be traced to a misunderstanding of each other’s attachment style that triggers strong emotions.

We will also be learning how to speak another’s ‘love language’ (and them learning yours) is a compassionate practice that can help create safety in relationship through nervous system co-regulation. These ‘Love Languages’ apply to all kinds of relationships: Romantic, Friendships, Families and work / study colleagues.

While it is recommended that you have completed “Awakening from the Past I: A Mind Body Approach to Re-Imagining the Family,” it is not necessary. These different learning modules are complementary to each other and can be taken separately. It is helpful to have had some experience with personal work (Haiwen, Satir, individual counseling / therapy, etc.) prior to attending.

Highlights
Awakening from the Past II: From Resources to Resilience

• Major influences in your life that still impact you today
• Compassionate conversations with your inner ‘parts’ (especially shame and self-criticism)
• Vulnerability, Defenses, The ‘Matrix of Expectations’, Yearnings: The universal human needs underneath our expectations
• Congruent communications
• Based on the work of: Peter Levine, Virginia Satir, Richard Schwarz, Eugene Gendlin, Stephen Porges and Martin Prechtel.

Awakening from the Past III: Compassionate Connections with Ourselves and Others

• Practical use of Attachment Theory
• Identifying your Autonomic Nervous System states and learning how to modulate them for emotional self-care
• Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation (why both are necessary)
• Exercises to create ‘Inter-Personal Goals’ in your important relationship
• Learn about ‘Love Languages’
• Based on the work of: Peter Levine, John Bowlby, Douglas Winnicott, Mary Ainsworth, Laurence Heller, Aline LaPierre, Eugene Gendlin, Diane Poole-Heller, Sue Johnson, Gary Chapman and Stephen Porges.

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主導老師 Leaders
葛萊姆·布朗 Graemme Brown: Dip.C, SEP

葛萊姆，心理諮商文憑，身體經驗創傷治療師，自1985年以來一直與The Haven合作。他致力於「慈悲與溫和詢問」的鑽研，多年來專注於維吉尼亞·薩提爾模式、榮格的影子工作和彼得萊文的肢體經驗系統的研究。葛萊姆視他的Haven教職同仁為創意靈感的泉源，他們的風格和專業知識多種多樣。作為The Haven核心導師的成員，葛萊姆在中國和加拿大共同領導了Come Alive、Living Alive Phase I、Journey to Self、Family Reconstruction 和許多其他的成長課程。葛萊姆還是一位屢獲殊榮的錄音工程師，經營他的Zen Mastering工作室超過25年。他對音樂的熱愛和創作過程的奧秘在很大程度上體現了他在個人成長工作上所採取的模式。他目前在加拿大卑詩省的加布里奧拉島生活和工作。

Graemme Brown, Dip.C, SEP, has been associated with The Haven since 1985. He is dedicated to compassionate and gentle inquiry, focused on his experience with the philosophy of Virginia Satir, Jungian shadow work and Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing system. Graemme considers his Haven faculty colleagues as another source of creative inspiration with their great diversity of styles and expertise. As a member of The Haven’s core faculty, Graemme co-leads Come Alive, Living Alive Phase I, Journey to Self, Family Reconstruction and a number of other programs on Gabriola, in China and with First-Nation communities in Northern Canada. Graemme is also an award-winning recording engineer, running his Zen Mastering studio for over twenty-five years. His love of music and the mysteries of the creative process inform much of his approach to personal development training. He lives and works on Gabriola Island.

李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee

心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification

加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監

文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。

Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.

Becoming – The Satir and Haven Connection ~ Bilingual Online Webinar

| 主講：Maria Gomori + Jock McKeen
| 日期：7/31, 2021
| 學員：566人

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課程回顧
由 Maria、Jock、The Haven Team 和 The China Team 團隊共同創造的漣漪效應在這個活動結束後仍持續發生。我在社交媒體上收到許多照片和視頻分享。在下面我收集了一些供參考。附上了5分鐘的“感恩視頻”如下。Yang 和 Paula，你們在翻譯和技術支援方面的專業確保了這次活動的成功。特別想告訴 Linda 老師，非常感謝你的出席，你對我和中國團隊來說情意深重，許多在這裡的中國朋友們都非常開心看到你在線。對 Maria 和 Jock 也致上我深深的敬意和愛 – 你們對彼此的愛，對廣大學員們的愛，以及對這個世界的愛，已經通過你們的言語和能量而閃耀流動。我聽到參與者許多的很棒的反饋，以下是一個參考的例子。

The ripple effect of the magic, co-created by Maria, Jock, The Haven Team and The China Team, is happening after the session ends. I have been receiving photos and video clips on social media. I collected some in the attached file for reference. I also attached the 5 minutes “video of gratitude” as follows. Yang and Paula, both your heart and expertise on translation and technology ensured the success of the event. My special thanks to Linda – I appreciate so much of your presence today. You mean dearly to me and The China Team. People were thrilled to see you online. My deep respect and love to Maria and Jock – Your loving towards each other, to people you are teaching, and to the world has shone through your words and spirit. I hear wonderful feedbacks from participants. Hereafter is a couple examples for reference.

這是我經歷最震撼和感動的一次線上課：500多位來自全世界各地的海文人，一同聆聽兩位殿堂級的心理學導師Maria和Jock分享他們的人生智慧。課程結束了整整一個小時我們都留在屏幕上不捨得下線，在眼淚和回憶中連結 … 101歲的maria最後說：「我雖然是老師，我也永遠是學生，我們永遠在成長。」含著熱淚，向知行合一的前輩恩師們致敬，感謝過去十多年來的引領，你們的生命影響了我的生命，我將會在薩提亞和海文收穫的瑰寶繼續傳承下去！
This is the most shocking and moving online class I have experienced: more than 500 Haven people from all over the world listened to the two great leaders on psychology Maria and Jock sharing their life wisdom. At the end of the course, we stayed on the screen for an entire hour, reluctant to go offline, connecting in tears and memories … 101-year-old Maria finally said, “Although I am a teacher, I will always be a student, and we will always grow.” In tears, I pay tribute to these two predecessors of the congruence of knowledge and action. Thank you for your guidance over the past ten years. Your life has affected mine, and I will continue to pass on the treasures I harvested in the Satir and the Haven!

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–听麦基卓和玛丽亚葛茉莉对话后的复盘和思考

2021年7月31日，新冠病毒疫情依旧蔓延反复，在人与人之间不得不保持社交距离的背景下，Haven学院的创始人之一，麦基卓（Jock）和他的好友萨提亚家庭转化治疗流派大师玛丽亚葛茉莉（Maria）进行了一次线上对话，题为Becoming《成为》。这次对话中，两个老朋友不仅重温了结识亦师亦友的亲密搭档, 黄焕祥（Ben)和维吉尼亚.萨提亚的经历，还介绍了两个流派是基于怎样的背景兼容并蓄，不断发展个人成长的教育理念和疗愈助人工作的模型。

Jock回忆起80年代末期，正是经由玛丽亚和萨提亚介绍，他和Ben来到香港，台湾和大陆旅行和授课。萨提亚和玛丽亚也一直在加拿大Haven学院开课。那里甚至有一间教室是以萨提亚来命名的。玛丽亚和Ben早年结识于曼尼托巴的讲座上。她还是加拿大Haven学院年龄最大的心理咨商文凭获得者。他们两个人在对谈的后20分钟以个人化的方式，把彼此从“高座上“放下来，去掉投射。他们饱含深情地谈及和众多朋友结伴去许多国家旅行的轶事。他们共同回忆Ben和萨提亚的音容笑貌，莞尔地提到他们如何争论，然后同意彼此的不同意的深厚友谊。玛丽亚越讲越带着坚定和激情；Jock呈现敏锐幽默的同时，默默地把握谈话节奏，还不忘记照顾翻译。

玛丽亚说：“和Ben，Jock和萨提亚一起，我学到了我是谁。” 她回忆起受邀在盖岛上的Haven学院授课时，萨提亚不断地发展出帮助人们更多重新看待自己和过去的教学工具。Jock说萨提亚正是以不断地好奇和创造，在世界各地授课，入世地展开萨提亚学习网络。而在Haven有一套关于成长的理念，他和Ben建立了一个场域，欢迎人们在这个社群团体中体验诚心相对和真心连结，然后回到生活中去运用。

萨提亚和Haven怎么看改变
面对500多位来自世界各地的友人弟子和参会者，玛丽亚提出改变这个主题。她认为改变是持续发生而且是可能的，同时是艰难的。人们往往熟悉依赖于某种形态，害怕改变。因为改变一定会发生混乱，比如目前的疫情。她说混乱带来的害怕会让人回到原来的形态。

联系到对话主题上来理解，我认为他们谈的改变是为了成为自己的改变。我翻来覆去地回看他们关于这个话题的谈话，课后第二周突然领悟到改变是在冰山系统的理解层次上发生的。Haven对于与改变相关的混沌理论和人的同构，内在地貌等内容虽然这次谈话没有展开，但Jock说：“在Haven，我们认认为有些事情是绝对不会改变的，比如个人过去发生的事情。改变的是你与过往事件的关系”。秉持这个态度，人在当下改变了看待问题的视野。Ben&Jock在《存乎一心》的书中谈到一个人的深层结构不会改变，但可以改变的是对它的展现方式，因势利导，善加其用。从冰山的各个层次触探固着防卫模式，与渴望连结，以自己满足自己的期待的负责态度面对未知。我搬运冯峥老师曾经做过的总结来完善我的体悟：“当我们把自己抛入未知和不确定性时所展现出来的我才是真正的我。”

玛丽亚说：“很多人会留在原始形态中，以受害者的身份待在过往和痛苦中，不愿前进。“她认为回顾过去，不代表继续做受害者，往前走是必要的。改变必然带来混乱，可一旦从中走出来，人们会进入一个新的形态。“接纳自己是人生最大的改变历程。”她说：“我们越认可接纳自己，越可欣赏接纳他人。这么多年，如果我没有看见这么多人的改变，成为他们自己，我没有办法把我的工作进行下去。”

创伤和博物馆
中场休息时，Jock邀请玛丽亚接下来谈“博物馆”。他说这个话题不可避免会涉及创伤这个主题。

博物馆是萨提亚形容安放个人的过往历史的内在空间的比喻。在Haven称之为码头。Jock讲到Ben曾经因为华裔的身份，没有归属感而想要去桥边自杀。在将要跳下去的一刻，他问自己连死都不怕的话，受“歧视”的担心有什么可怕？向死而生的勇气让Ben从自己的博物馆中走了出来。玛丽亚问Jock ：“你的博物馆里是什么？Jock停顿了一下说：“是我的脆弱。我的愚蠢。我总是担心犯错，担心别人看到我的错误和不确定。所以我竖起了墙，藏起了我的软弱。这样别人可以看不到我。但在墙内我感到孤独。”玛丽亚说她把二战时期的经历存放进了博物馆。她鼓起勇气决心挥别过去，和Ben以及Jock等一群朋友去德国旅行。当她看到那里的人和目前的境况时，她放下了她的伤痛。她说：”所以我觉得我的使命一直是让人们停止把自己作为受害者。

受害者会在博物馆里待着。“ Jock补充说：“有一种观点大家可能不曾听到。心理治疗有一种流行趋势，那就是创伤治疗。由治疗师医治来访者的创伤。创伤触发时，我学会的是与之共存，感受它，然后放下。这股感受是一种能量。重要的是一次又一次地放下它。从改变成为转化。”玛丽亚说：“这就是所谓的第三度诞生！”萨提亚认为人的第一度诞生是精子和卵子的结合，第二度是人从子宫里出生，第三度诞生是个人自我负责的改变和成长。

停留在博物馆里会发生什么？在萨提亚《与人连结》这本书的序言中，她说：‘我所呈现的是以普遍人类经验为背景的。我们出生时皆渺小，且属于某个特定的男人或女人。在出生和当下之间，我们积累了大量的人生经验，这就是我们众所周知的过去。如果你还活着，我们目前为止做的所有的事情，都有它特定的作用。问题是：代价是什么？而这个代价能不能更低一些？“

改变需要勇气，也真的需要练习不物化自己。Jock在疫情期间为《懂得健康》北美版电子书新写了序。其中这段说的好像就是我自己改变刚开始的体验。“当我们听从内在严厉的声音，它敦促我们去达成更多或嘲笑我们未能达到内在严酷的标准考量，我们就失却了与自己，他人和宇宙秩序人性化的连结。我们变成了缩减的存在。”

当我练习对自己耐心，直到我有勇气一致性地表达和向人承认，并接受这样做之后事情也不一定如我所期待，我逐渐成为我自己。这不仅关乎我信任自己的本来面貌是OK的，也关乎我信任别人有做自己和成为自己的能力。

连结
谈话最后，玛丽亚邀请Jock与大家分享这一辈子最重要的领悟。Jock说：“变化一定会发生。待在负面的空间是ok的，只要你能和朋友或在团体里连结。”问到玛丽亚人生最重要的学习，她回忆到说：Haven的前教务长Joan带的课里有一个环节，是邀请人们分享生命最后10分钟想说什么？你想对谁表达？大家发现他们谈的不是关于工作和钱，而是身边重要的人。”

这场对话的线上，她和Jock重要的朋友都上线出席了。玛丽亚的儿子安迪，她的密友和Haven学院的Linda Nicoles老师，林沈明莹老师，Jock现在的搭档Katherine，Ben的儿子Kevin，担任翻译的李文淑老师，还有在中国海文和萨提亚的授课的许多老师和学员。以这样的方式，在疫情下连结，面对改变的混乱。假如玛丽亚和Jock，Ben和萨提亚他们创造了自己与人连结，产生影响的方式。向我提的问题是我在连结中贡献了什么？我感激谁？

萨提亚还说过：“连结不是一场你赢我输的游戏，也并非可以永远快乐下去，而我们可以很坦诚地生活，有人情味地与他人分享。” 她这样来表达她自己是如何做的，而我还不能完全做到。

我的目标
我想要爱你，而不控制你
欣赏你，而不评断你
与你一起，而不侵犯你
邀请你，而非强求你，
离开你，无需多言歉疚
批评你，而非责备你，
并且，帮助你，但不看轻你，
如果我也能从你那里得到相同的，
那么我们的相会就是真诚的，
并且会丰盈彼此。

而在Ben和Jock合著的《存乎一心》的结语里，他们说：
在一个疯狂的世界，
如果我们能保持积极正面的态度
以心回应，那么或许
我们就能造成小小的改变
泛起涟漪

文淑老师为现场朋友们挑选的结尾曲是《朋友》，在写这篇回顾时启发了我自问的答案。
这些年 一个人 风也过 雨也走，
有过泪 有过错 还记得坚持什么，
真爱过 才会懂 会寂寞 会回首，
终有梦 终有你 在心中，
朋友 一生一起走 那些日子 不再有，
一句话 一辈子 一生情 一杯酒，
朋友 不曾孤单过 一声朋友 你会懂，
还有伤 还有痛 还要走 还有我！

感恩視頻YouTube連結：https://youtu.be/jZb5YnlHSqU

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成為合諧共創的生命 – 在薩提爾與海文的連結中讓生命精彩綻放
Becoming – The Satir and Haven Connection

2021年7月30 (北美時間) 或 2021年7月31 (亞洲時間)
Jul. 30, 2021 (North America) or July 31, 2021 (Asia)

這場引人入勝的對話 – 瑪莉亞‧葛茉利，薩提爾模式最重要的導師之一，和麥基卓，海文學院的聯合創始人，這兩位經驗豐富的教育工作者，在線上有一場對話分享他們所代表的這兩種成長模式。

維琴尼亞‧薩提爾(1916~1988)被譽為世上最早也是最有影響力的家庭治療師之一，但她的成就遠超於此。她與海文學院的兩位創辦人黃煥祥博士(1930~2013)以及麥基卓博士結緣於1970年代，在共同好友瑪莉亞‧葛茉利的介紹下開始他們的友誼。

黃煥祥，麥基卓，維琴尼亞‧薩提爾1987年在海文合影
Bennet Wong, Jock McKeen and Virginia Satir in 1987 at the Haven

薩提爾博士曾說：『也許我在與人相處的工作中非常成功，然而這不是因為我知道多少，而是因為我是誰。』薩提爾模式強調在家庭動態的背景下『自我認可』；海文則以融合東西方概念的全人觀點來強調自我覺察以及在關係中的成長與轉化；這兩種模式有著異曲同工和相輔相成的效果！

黃煥祥，麥基卓，瑪莉亞‧葛茉利2010年在海文合影
Bennet Wong, Jock McKeen and Maria Gomori in 2010 at the Haven

瑪莉亞於1974年遇到了煥祥和基卓。她最初是他們的學生，渴望學習他們新穎的方法。自此三人成為了終生的良師益友。瑪莉亞‧葛茉利是當今世上最重要的薩提爾模式之先驅。2021年五月她和基卓以及她在海文的朋友們在線上慶祝了她101歲的生日。

海文模式與薩提爾模式
『我們的連結是基於我們的相同，我們的學習是來自我們的不同。』— 維琴尼亞‧薩提爾

儘管薩提爾模式和海文模式之間存在著一些差異，但其基本原理是非常相似的，有時只是用不同的語言來做描述。這兩種方法都在邀請我們更深入地探究『我是誰』這個難題。對於兩者而言，通往未知世界的旅程有著許多切入點和不同維度。請加入我們一起來見證這兩位終生合作的良師益友 – 聽聽他們如何獨特地掌握了兩人畢生之鑽研以及實踐的經驗！

『煥祥和基卓所創建的海文是一所獨特的生命教育學校，在這個特別的地方，人們可以了解自己、學習生活以及人際關係。他們為海文所開發的經驗及住宿式的課程是非常獨特的學習經驗，課程在協助人們深入且有意義地了解自己。就像維琴尼亞‧薩提爾一樣，他們不僅是從理論上講授，他們更是從生活中的經驗來教導。』 — 瑪莉亞‧葛茉利

『海文是一個特殊的地方，一個家，一個環境，​​一個擁有自然和美麗的容器，人們可以在課堂內和環境中落實所學。” — 瑪莉亞‧葛茉利

This engaging dialogue is between Maria Gomori, one of the foremost teachers of Satir processes, and Jock McKeen, the co-founder of the Haven. These experienced educators will discuss the two approaches they represent in an online dialogue.

Virginia Satir (1916~1988) was renowned as one of the first and foremost influential family therapists in the world; but she was much more than that. She and the two founders of The Haven, Dr. Bennet Wong (1930~2013) and Dr. Jock McKeen, began their friendship in the 1970’s, introduced by their mutual friend Maria Gomori.

Dr. Satir once said: “Maybe I had so much success with people, not because of what I know but because of who I am.” The Satir approach emphasizes “self-validation,” in the context of family dynamics; Haven’s holistic view focuses on self-awareness and relational growth, blending Eastern and Western concepts. Although the two approaches have different emphases in some ways, they complement each other well.

Maria met Ben and Jock in 1974. She started out as their student, eager to learn their novel approaches. Since then the three became lifetime colleagues and best friends. Maria Gomori is one of the world’s foremost living proponents of the Satir Approach. In May 2021, she celebrated her 101st birthday online with Jock and her Haven friends.

The Haven and the Satir Approaches
“We connect based on our sameness and we learn from our differentness.” – Virginia Satir

Although there are some differences between the Satir and the Haven approaches, the underlying principles are very similar, sometimes described with different language. Both approaches invite us to investigate more deeply the puzzle of “who I am.” For both, there are many entry points and dimensions to this journey into the unknown. Please join us to witness these two long-time collaborators and friends as they share their unique mastery of their life-long study and practice.

“The Haven that Ben and Jock created is a unique school of life, a special place where people could learn about themselves and their life and relationships. The experiential residential programs they developed for Haven are remarkable learning opportunities that help people to understand themselves in deep and meaningful ways. Like Virginia Satir, they did not just teach from theory; they taught from what they lived.” – Maria Gomori

“Haven is a special place, a home, a context, a container with nature and beauty, where people can live the learnings both in the classroom and the environment.” – Maria Gomori

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主講人 The Speakers
瑪莉亞‧葛茉利 Maria Gomori
MSW, RMFT, Dip.C

瑪莉亞‧葛茉利與維琴尼亞‧薩提爾一起學習和工作了20多年，自1981年以來一直是薩提爾全球網路Satir Network的主要導師。她在海文學院任教數十年，帶領《自我和家庭重建之旅》，最近她還線上指導《薩提爾進階課程》。海文出版了許多她的書，包括她的自傳《愛與自由》（繁體版）《自由的激情》（簡體版）。您可以在維基百科 (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maria_Gomori) 上閱讀更多關於瑪莉亞的生活和專業相關的信息。

『瑪莉亞的生命見證了存在主義所强調的原則：自由、真實、責任，和道德的行動者。 在平衡與勇氣中，她也接受了焦慮、孤獨和令人癱瘓的不確定性等不可避免的挑戰。 她頭腦中充满了關於人的想法、概念和新颖的觀点。』– 黃煥祥和麥基卓

Maria Gomori studied and worked with Virginia Satir for over 20 years and has been a main teacher in the Satir Network since 1981. She has taught at The Haven for decades, leading《Journey to Self》and more recently coaching 《Advanced Satir》online. The Haven has published a number of her books, including her autobiography,
《Passion for Freedom. 》You can read more about Maria’s life and career on Wikipedia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maria_Gomori).

“Maria’s life is a testimony to the principles addressed by existential philosophies: freedom, authenticity, responsibility, and moral agency. With balance and courage, she also accepts the inevitable challenges of angst, loneliness, and paralyzing uncertainties. Her mind is alive with ideas, concepts, and novel perspectives on human beings.” — Bennet Wong & Jock McKeen

麥基卓 Jock McKeen
MD, LicAc (UK), DLitt

海文學院的聯合創始人兼該學院的榮譽教授，基卓也是一位多才多藝的主持人和作家。他最初是一名急診醫生，後來在英國牛津的中國針灸學院學習針灸。與黃煥祥共同建立了互補的醫療方法之後，他們合作創立了海文學院。他們開發了海文的核心課程，撰寫了大量的書籍，並四處旅行到許多國家分享他們的理念與經驗。煥祥和基卓多年來經常在亞洲任教，將他們的海文經驗帶給說中文的朋友們。您可以在專門介紹基卓及其畢生工作的維基百科頁面上 (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jock_McKeen) 閱讀有關基卓更多的信息。

Jock McKeen, co-founder and Faculty Emeritus of The Haven, is an accomplished presenter and author. Starting out as an emergency physician, he studied acupuncture at the College of Chinese Acupuncture, Oxford, England. After establishing a complementary medical practice in association with Bennet Wong, they collaborated in the development of The Haven. They developed the Core Programs at Haven, wrote numerous books, and travelled extensively to share their approach in many countries. Ben and Jock frequently taught in Asia for many years, bringing their Haven teaching to Chinese speaking people. You can read more about Jock at the Wikipedia entry devoted to him and his life’s work (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jock_McKeen).

翻譯 The Translators
李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification

加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監

文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。

Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.

徐扬 Yang Xu
BA, MA, RCC

曾多年就职于加拿大维多利亚救济中心，从事流浪者及吸毒者的紧急心理救助及社会资源整合；曾就职于加拿大维多利亚家庭服务中心（Family Service of Greater Victoria），从事少年儿童及家长的心理治疗咨询，及组织带领团队的心理辅导治疗。加拿大彩虹堂（Rainbow Hall Society）非盈利组织咨询顾问，及同伴帮助项目培训导师。现作为独立心理咨询师进行线上及线下心理咨询，在同馨济慈健康咨询中心，华东师范大学，中智关爱通EAP等机构进行个人及家庭的心理咨询服务及团辅。玛瑞亚家庭治疗与家庭重塑学术委员会兼职助理。上海Halo后现代心理培训ICCP项目特聘翻译。

Yang Xu
I am a Canada BC Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with enthusiasm for working with clients from diverse cultural backgrounds. I received my B.A. in Psychology, and my M.A. in Counseling Psychology, both from University of Victoria. I believe in a collaborative and integrative way of working with my client, in hope of offering a safe and warm place to share feelings and explore solutions. Every individual has the possibility to change and grow, and my work is to find their own strengths and resources. I have been working in mental health for 10 years, from community to private practice. I’m currently working as EAP counsellor, family therapist, group facilitator and workshop translator in Shanghai, China and BC, Canada. Some other issues I’m exploring are addictions, LGBTQ+, international living, parenting, emerging adulthood and more. My professional training also includes Satir Family Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dynamic-Maturational Attachment Approach and Collaborative-Dialogue.

Awakening from the Past I ~ Bilingual Online Program

| 導師：Graemme Brown + Wen-Shwu Lee 李文淑
| 時間：4/10, 11, 17, 18, 2021
| 學員：112人

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學員回饋 Participant Feedbacks

• 文淑老師您好，我先生去年九月因肝硬化驟逝，去年及至今透過網路聽您和佩霞老師（幾年前曾回台灣去上過她的“愛的運轉“研習營）的許多YouTube專題演講，幫助我走過非常低潮的時期，給了我許多力量。真的很感謝您在線上開這個課程，讓無法回台參加您課程的人，能在線上上您和葛萊恩老師的課而受益。昨天聽您跟葛萊恩老師影音帶領的空椅練習，對我的幫助很大。讓我能夠透過這個練習表達對摯愛已逝的先生說出許多來不及對他說的話，幫助我抒發深藏在內心的愧疚，哀傷及感謝。
• 親愛的文淑老師，剛聽完你們今天的影音回放，特別是在結束時您播放“You Are Not Alone“這首歌時，特別提到這首歌是要獻給來自世界各地的學員時，特別感到溫馨及感動。身在異鄉，此時全球疫情嚴重，無法回台灣探親及上成長課程。慶幸此時有機會能跟你們一起“隔空“學習。在瑞士獨自走在身心靈成長這一條路上有時覺得很孤單。但這一年多在YouTube 網路上聽您和佩霞老師演講，非常喜歡你們的樂觀，樂於助人，平易近人，親切及甜美的笑容，跟你們在網路上連結，學習成長，受益良多。很高興有你們影音的陪伴，知道“自己並不孤單“。由衷心地，感謝您及所有人付出，促成這一次課程的因緣。感恩！祝平安喜樂！
• 謝謝老師的邀請我再次的參加海文的課程，這兩次的感覺非常不同，上次很大的部分我都在掙扎怎麼參與分享，我沒有跟大陸學員分享的經驗有非常陌生的感覺，還有自己的個性問題，上次我的確也受到同組學員熱情地要請我打開視頻（有壓力）。為了想再度的參加課程，我的確也仔細的考慮到我自己的限制及舒服的程度。我想看看這次會如何開展。這次非常不同，上課速度這次慢下來，很快心就靜了。課間自己有不少的洞見，蠻驚喜的。這兩天是一個收穫豐富的課程，是個起頭並且需要不斷操練的歷程。
• 老師這次的課收穫滿滿，有想要跟你請教及分享驚奇的。上課前還有一點時間，我想再練習投射 ，等課程結束後再多聊。 謝謝你的安排讓我遇到這位對我頗多啓迪的老師。謝謝妳！昨天我收到加拿大海文寄來上次兩天上課的錄影，非常興奮。昨天也再看過一次，很有收穫。謝謝加拿大海文，也謝謝你們中國團隊的努力，謝謝妳的策劃與領導。

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可能大多數人都有這個經驗：對家人所做的事或所說的話，我們會做出強烈又盲目的本能反應。事後又常常對自己的行為後悔不已，要不就是更堅持己見，怪罪別人！（心想如果他們把事情做對，一切不就沒事了！）

又或我明明看到某位家人對別人總有著美好的特質，可是這個人就偏偏對我如此冷漠，貶抑，甚或公開仇視我，我不明白為什麼他們就不能對我好一點？

這些強烈的本能反應好像不知從何而來，而這些反應又發生如此之快，如此激烈，似乎無法掌控！有點像是我們情緒被劫機了，我們的理智和良知在那些時候怎麼都不能正常運作呢！

這種現象的發生有一點像我們走神了或是進入了夢境。

其實我們是的！

這種「走神狀態」跟我們內在深層的渴望是息息相關的，我們的內心都渴望著愛、支持、養份、仁慈，和連結。這些渴望當然在不同文化中有著不同的表達方式，然而人類的渴求卻是超越文化藩籬並且是共通的。我們也在身體上經驗著這些渴求：在感受覺知上我們都渴望依附與連結，無論在任何年紀這些需求都是非常重要的。

其相關的程度會造成：如果童年時期我們無法在原生家庭去經驗並滿足這些人類共通的渴求時，成年後我們就會從別處尋找。表面上這個說法也許沒什麼特殊：「我們是由我們的早年生活經驗所刻畫而成。」然而真正的議題是，當我們「無意識」地去尋求別人來滿足這些期待時，這些未滿足的童年期待，在無意識的成年生活中被表達出來時，常常是我們婚姻、家庭，甚至工作關係上困難重重的來源。指責、抱怨、失望、絕望等只是這些無意識狀態的表徵，底層我們期待著那些不知情參與我們「走神狀態」的人們能夠給我們不同的結果。

更有意思的是，我們會將這些狀況演譯在我們的伴侶、同事，或小孩身上，想像他們是我們的父母，或是孩提時代的重要人物。可以想像這種現象對我們親近的人將會是多麼困難的挑戰。

然而和這樣「走神狀態」同時存在的是我們生理上的知覺與症狀。我們的本能反應是同時發生在我們的心理和身體。思考、講理和邏輯並不能完全地幫助我們從過去的束縛中覺醒。在這些無意識的走神狀態中，我們的身體確實蘊藏了許多值得探索的有用資訊。

四月份2021的中英双語課程邀請到海文的核心導師葛萊姆老師Graemme Brown和李文淑老師一起，以身心整合的方式在建構家庭關係上提供一個新的可能性。課堂中開啟探索早期家庭經驗對我們現在生活的影響，以及如何應對。我們的目標並不是改變過去，而且過去也不可能改變，而是我們能改變我們與過去的關係，這是非常可行的，讓我們開始更全然豐盛的活在當下。

課程中包括了在這個主題上幾位專家的理念，包括：薩提爾、彼得烈文、海文的黃煥祥和麥基卓、尤金堅林，和約翰凱伯辛，）並提供有效的工具可應用在生活中及課後練習。

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課程主題
1. 家庭規則的影響

• 家庭規則的兩種形式
• 轉化規則為原則
• 與我們內在制定規則的人建立友好的關係

2. 薩提爾的冰山模式

• 我們內在世界與外在行為的地圖
• 與自我和他人深度溝通的工具

3. 情緒整理

• 安在
• 從反應到回應

4. 專注

• 感知的重要性
• 日常的工具
• 恢復能力的開發

5. 有意識的期待

• 覺察我想要的是什麼
• 為我想要的負起責任：打開自由之門

Most of us have been in situations where we have reacted strongly, ‘blindly’, to something that a loved-one has done or said. Often, we later regret our behavior, or we reinforce our opinion that it was the other person that did the wrong thing (and if only *they* just did the right thing, all would be harmonious!)

Or perhaps I keep seeing the best in someone who is clearly indifferent, demeaning or even openly hostile to me? And I don’t understand why they can’t just treat me kindly.

Those strong reactions seem to come from nowhere and they happen so fast and with such intensity that I seem unable to control them. It’s like being hi-jacked by my emotions: My rational, sensible mind seems to be unavailable at those times.

It is almost as if we are in a trance or a dream when this is happening.

Well, we are…

This ‘trance-state’ is related to our deeply held desire for love, support, nurturing, kindness, compassion, and connection. While they are certainly expressed differently across cultures, these are universal human ‘needs’ that transcend culture. We humans experience these needs in our bodies as well: the need for a ‘felt sense’ of connection and attachment to others is vitally important for people of any age.

To the extent that we did or did not experience these needs being met in childhood, we will seek them out as adults. On the surface, there is nothing unusual about this: We are deeply shaped by our earliest life experiences. The real issue is when we *unconsciously* seek others to meet these expectations. Unmet childhood expectations, unconsciously expressed in our adult life are often the source of much difficulty in marriages, families and even work relationships. Blame, resentment, deep disappointment, and despair are just some of the symptoms of us unconsciously expecting different outcomes with the people who are unwitting participants in our ‘trance.’

To make it even more ‘interesting’, we will act towards our partners, colleagues, and children as if they are our parents or other important figures from our childhood. As you can imagine, this is difficult and often bewildering for those who we are close to.

Along with these ‘trance-states’ come physiological sensations and symptoms. Our reactions are happening both in our minds and bodies. Thinking, reasoning, and rationalizing alone will not completely help us wake up from the impact of our past. Indeed, our bodies hold useful information about what is happening in these unconscious trances.

For the April Bilingual Online Program – our Haven Core Facilitators Graemme Brown and Wen-Shwu Lee apply a mind-body approach to provide a new perspective on our family relationships. In this workshop, we begin the exploration of how our early family experiences impact us in our present, daily life and what we can do about this. Our aim is to not change the past (impossible) but to change our relationship with the past (very possible!) and begin to live more fully in the present.

We use the work of wise elders (including Virginia Satir, Peter Levine, Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen, Eugene Gendlin and Jon Kabat-Zinn) to create tools that you can use in your daily life, beyond the workshop itself.

Topics:
1. The Impact of Family Rules

• The two types of family rules
• Transforming rules into guidelines
• Befriending our inner rule-maker

2. Virginia Satir’s Iceberg Model

• A map of our internal world and external behavior
• A tool for deeper communication with self & others

3. Emotional Regulation

• Grounding
• Moving from reaction to response

4. Focusing

• The importance of the ‘felt sense’
• Tools for daily life
• Developing resilience

5. Conscious Expectations

• Becoming aware of what I want
• Taking responsibility for my expectations: the doorway to freedom

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主導老師 Leaders

葛萊姆·布朗 Graemme Brown
心理諮商文憑，身體經驗創傷治療師，自1985年以來一直與The Haven合作。他致力於「慈悲與溫和詢問」的鑽研，多年來專注於維吉尼亞·薩提爾模式、榮格的影子工作和彼得萊文的肢體經驗系統的研究。葛萊姆視他的Haven教職同仁為創意靈感的泉源，他們的風格和專業知識多種多樣。作為The Haven核心導師的成員，葛萊姆在中國和加拿大共同領導了Come Alive、Living Alive Phase I、Journey to Self、Family Reconstruction 和許多其他的成長課程。葛萊姆還是一位屢獲殊榮的錄音工程師，經營他的Zen Mastering工作室超過25年。他對音樂的熱愛和創作過程的奧秘在很大程度上體現了他在個人成長工作上所採取的模式。他目前在加拿大卑詩省的加布里奧拉島生活和工作。

Graemme Brown, Dip.C, SEP, has been associated with The Haven since 1985. He is dedicated to compassionate and gentle inquiry, focused on his experience with the philosophy of Virginia Satir, Jungian shadow work and Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing system. Graemme considers his Haven faculty colleagues as another source of creative inspiration with their great diversity of styles and expertise. As a member of The Haven’s core faculty, Graemme co-leads Come Alive, Living Alive Phase I, Journey to Self, Family Reconstruction, and a number of other programs on Gabriola, in China and with First-Nation communities in Northern Canada. Graemme is also an award-winning recording engineer, running his Zen Mastering studio for over twenty-five years. His love of music and the mysteries of the creative process inform much of his approach to personal development training. He lives and works on Gabriola Island.

李文淑 Wen-Shwu Lee
心理諮商文憑、企業教練碩士認證、企管碩士、藝術學士、文學士、身心整合夫妻療癒認證、身體經驗創傷療法認證
CEC, Dip-C, MBA, BFA, BA, PACT Level II Certification, SE Intermediate II/III Certification
加拿大The Haven學院核心導師
加拿大The Haven學院前董事
加拿大The Haven學院前中國實習生總監

文淑是一位熱情，專業，平易近人的導師。她擁有跨越東西文化的豐富人生閱歷，她的教學以人性為出發點，在她熱情關懷以及洞察人心的教學風格中，文淑有效地整合了她的專業背景與生活經驗，並巧妙地將心理咨商，教練領導，創意啓發，身體經驗，夫妻成長，等不同的學說和技巧融會應用於身心整合的全人發展工作中。多年來她在大中國地區，北美，以及全球的線上平台上教授個人及專業成長課程，引導學員從桎梏的模式，轉化壓力挑戰為有效資源，蛻變為每人的獨特魅力與健康人際關係。在加拿大著名的潛能開發機構海文學院，文淑是唯一的一位華人被認可進入海文的核心導師, 在台灣她也是樂泉咨詢顧問公司的創辦人。

Wenshwu is passionate as an educator and a life coach. She is both personal and professional. She embraces life fully and keeps enriching herself in cross-cultural environment. Her leadership style is based on humanity, on which she effectively integrates her professional trainings with personal experiences. She applies various schools of learning: coaching, counseling, creativity, SE (Somatic Experiencing), and PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) in the series of heart-brain integrated personal and professional development programs. She designs and leads onsite workshops and online programs in greater China area, north America, and around the globe. In these programs Wenshwu witnesses so many people breaking through fixated patterns, transforming suppression to useful resources, and living fully in their unique beings. Wenshwu is so far the only Chinese approved to the Haven Core Faculty. She is also the founder of The Train Coaching & Counseling Corp. in Taiwan.